One of the keys I saw here was the Charter Rep seems to agree with the SM.
Basically this is an adding to the requirements to "take part in service projects" not lead.
If the service was for Dad's business, I probably wouldn't give my SM "approval".
The rules allow a scout to request a SMC and BOR when he believes he has completed all the requirements and a Scout cannot be denied this opportunity. If the BOR turns him down then Adverse decisions for Star and Life ranks can be appealed to the local council. Call your DAC and have them visit the SM/COR.
What the SM/COR should use for EP preps is the Cit in Comm requirement
7.Do the following:
a.Choose a charitable organization outside of Scouting that interests you and brings people in your community together to work for the good of your community.
b.Using a variety of resources (including newspapers, fliers and other literature, the Internet, volunteers, and employees of the organization), find out more about this organization.
c.With your counselor's and your parent's approval, contact the organization and find out what young people can do to help. While working on this merit badge, volunteer at least eight hours of your time for the organization. After your volunteer experience is over, discuss what you have learned with your counselor.
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